dilemma

you
permeate my being.
i can not live
without you.

but,
you can barely convey
what i think
and feel.

you
elusive,
intangible,
inadequate words!

How to cope with loss & pain

When we lose someone or something that is very precious; the grief is intense. Pain, memories, questions haunt us. We feel that we will never recover. Nothing in the whole world seems to matter. We feel we will never be the same again; never really laugh, never recover, never be whole again.

However it is possible to heal emotionally, mentally, physically and in spirit and become a compassionate, feeling, laughing human being again.

I hope some of these insights may help you cope better:

• Work or people around you may make you forget your pain for a while but you must gradually face it.

• Talk to a friend, share your sorrow.

• Talk to a compassionate stranger, if you can’t find a friend.

• Let your pain come out. Let the tears flow. It is alright to cry even if you are a boy or a girl or a man or a woman or any creature on this planet. Even animals shed tears.

• Try and remember the good times, the positives.

• Listen to your favorite music.

• Walk in the garden, smell the flowers, listen to the birds.

• Watch the moon, the stars, the ocean or the mountains.

• Draw, paint or write.

• Take care of a few plants or a pet even if you are in an apartment.

• Do whatever gives you peace; gardening, cooking, fishing.

• Volunteer to help with young children. Their spontaneity, their laughter will soothe you.

• Involve yourself with social work. When you involve yourself with other people’s lives, you gain many insights to cope better.

• Participate in any activity you may enjoy; drama, surfing, deep sea diving, rock climbing, rafting, bungee jumping.

• Connect with like minded, kind and gentle people even if you feel hesitant.

• It is good to laugh. So watch that funny movie and laugh. Meet nice people, share joys and laugh.

Life is beautiful. It has many wonderful surprises in store for you. So go ahead smile, visit new places, meet new people and you never know where you may find a miracle.

silence

fragments of another lifespacetime

please go

it does not go.
no matter
what i say

how much
i smile
cajole or laugh.

pain
within me
has a permanent home.

fragments of another lifespacetime

they say

they say you are dead.
why is it, i still find you
deep inside my head.

fragments of another lifespacetime

dirge

o gods leave him be.
you have imbibed enough blood,
leave the shell to me.

fragments of another lifespacetime

gods

they envy our bliss.
like enemies, they conspire
to take you away.

fragments of another lifespacetime

prayer

please gods!
take me,
instead of him.

fragments of another lifespacetime

can’t recall

screams,
voices,
blood!
darkness…

fragments of another lifespacetime